How to Turn Your Dreams Into Reality?

How many times have you caught yourselves saying "I want to do this but I can't..." like "I want to be more confident but...", "I want to start my own business but...", "I want to have a house but...".

If we are painfully honest with ourselves, we know that anything we say after "but" is an excuse and we also know that that is the reason why we haven't achieved what we want.

I personally wouldn't recommend doing away with all the excuses in one go because excuses serve a purpose. They are there to protect us from physical or emotional pain and when we take them all away all of a sudden, we can feel very vulnerable and might end up shutting ourselves down further.

What I find more helpful is to ask myself these two questions. The first question is a test of commitment and the second question is designed to guide you into actons.

  1. "How badly do you want this?"

The fact we have excuses mean that we might not be wanting whatever we say that we want bad enough. The reason is when we want something bad enough, we will find ways to overcome those obstacles. For example, we will stay up late to get whatever need to be done done and we will work extra hours.

If your answer to this question is you don't want it bad enough, that is a-okay! I am all for saving our limited energy and time for things that truly matter to us. If this is the case, then we need to learn to say no or "this is not my priority right now." Practising saying no will set you free from the dissatisfaction of not doing so.

If your answer is indeed, yes I want to achieve this item/goal then I want you to ask yourself this second question:

2. How can you turn each of your excuses into a "How" question?

For example, when you say "I want to be more confident but I am not a confident person", saying this is not really helpful instead ask yourself "How can I become a more confident person?".

The "How" question opens up the possibilities of overcoming the barriers and it helps you take ownership of your situation rather than being a victim of the situation. Good luck and let me know how you go :)

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